Why Your First Date Should be a Mini-Date

Dating is expensive! I’m not just talking about the cost of dinner, drinks, and/or a movie; I’m talking about the expense of your emotions and time in the dating process. In dating, the quantity over quality principle can leave you too emotionally drained to find the right person to spend your valuable time and energy with. You should always keep in perspective the time you’re giving to the dating process, remembering that your time is valuable, and every minute with the wrong person, is a minute taken away from being with the right person. Therefore you should always want to make productive time out of your dating experiences. So how do you get around the dating process without pickup up the scars that come from dating too man Mr. and Ms. Wrong? Make your first date a mini-date.

What is a mini-date?
A mini-date is exactly what it sounds like, a mini-date. It’s an abbreviated version of what a full date would be like except you won’t have the expense associated with having a full date. It’s a date without the emotional, financial, and time constraints that are normally associated with a full date. A mini-date should be used like a pre-qualification for a full date.

How long should a mini-date last?
A good time for a mini-date is 30 min to 1 hour. If after 30 minutes you’ve had enough, then you know you saved yourself from the time of enduring another ‘date from hell.’ If after one hour you’re both still intrigued about one another, that’s a good indication that a full date might be in order.

What should I talk about on a mini-date?
Specifics should be saved for a full date and/or a relationship. However you should want to touch upon subject matters that are important to you. You should be willing to openly ask for, and tell your ‘deal breakers.’ You should touch on all those subjects that people tell you not to talk about. Sex, Religion, and Politics, thou not necessarily in that order, and there’s no reason to be sexually graphic. There’s no sense spending an entire evening with someone you know you will have philosophical differences with. Opposites may attract, but they don’t last. In the end, it’s better to date someone that you share similar interest with. If you’re Catholic and the person that you’re on a mini date with is Jewish, and you both know that neither will convert, a full date is not necessary. If your views are more liberal and your dates are more conservative, there’s a good chance that you will have more things to disagree on than agree on. Know already what you’re willing and not willing to accept, and what things can be compromised.

What’s the best day and time for a mini-date?
Unlike a regular date, for a mini-date you want to choose a day and time where time WILL be an issue. In other words, you should try to schedule min-dates for those times when you have something to do before and/or after the date. A lunch or breakfast is a good mini-date.

Where’s a good place to go for a mini-date?
The purpose of a mini-date isn’t romance, but rather to gather enough information to see if a relationship with the person can lead to romance. You should choose places that are public and unromantic. You want to choose a place where the focus can be on the conversation and getting to know one another and not on the ambience, food, or waiter, or any other things that could be a distraction to getting to know the real person. For a min-date try going to a coffee shop, a bookstore, the gym, or a simple sandwich shop restaurant.

What places should I avoid for a mini-date?
Since you’re trying to extract enough information from your date to qualify them for a full date, it’s best to stay away from intimate restaurants, sporting events, bars, and night clubs. Basically stay away from loud places and any place where it would be difficult to carry a meaningful conversation.

Mini-dates can be a very effective tool to pre-qualify your dates before you make the investment of your time in going on a real date. The greatest investment in dating is your time; and time is your most valuable asset. If you choose and invest wisely, you will reap the dividends in the end.

Obi aka The Relationship Guy, provides insightful, common sense, witty, and some times sarcastic articles on love, dating, and relationships. His forthcoming book, ‘The Blueprint of Love’ goes into detail about the game of love. You can read more articles and get more information about the book by going to: [http://www.theblueprintoflove.com] You can also read his blog on married life called: Marriage 101: Lessons Learned in the First Year of Marriage

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How to Start, Plan, and Keep a Date Night

It’s very common as the relationship progresses, for busy couples to begin to take each other for granted. Usually the first thing that goes in an established relationship is the quality time spent with each other building the relationship. Starting a date night is a great way for couples to ‘stay connected’ no matter how busy their schedule may become.

What is a date night

A date night is a way to rekindle and reminisce on the times when you both first started dating, and the giddiness it made you feel. For most people, during the dating period both people are on their best behaviors, and arguments and disagreements are kept at a minimum. Many people feel that after they ‘got’ the person, they wanted, they are no longer dating. This usually makes one or both of the people in the relationship complacent. Complacency is the silent killer of relationships. Date night is a way of taking the ho hum, and turning it into Ooh…hun!

Starting a date night

When you start a date night, you should pick a day of the week that’s good for both parties, where there will be few chances for missing the date. Honestly look at and asses both schedules, and sit down and determine the date that’s best for both. It’s good to also take into account the proposed start and maybe end of date night. For some people, a few hours is fine, for others, date night means all night long. Sit and decided what’s the best day and time that both people will be able to actively and openly participate in date night. When you decide on a day and time for date, it’s also good to set up the ground rules for how date night should be. These rules should include reasons why and in what circumstances a date night could be broken, and what the penalties for breaking the date night would be. You might also pick an alternative night for date night when the times come when unavoidable situations may arise.

Planning the date night

It takes two devoted people working on the relationship to make and keep the relationship last. As an established couple both parties should actively participate in planning the date night. It’s best if each person alternates every other week planning the date night for the other person. Choose activities that both parties enjoy doing and actively can participate in. Be creative and be different. Don’t settle for routine when it’s your turn to plan for date night. Don’t be afraid to try something new and/or choose something that both parties have been interested in trying, but have not done.

If you want to plan a date night for talking, remember to keep the conversation positive and be reflective on your feelings, the good times you had, and the great times yet to come. Date night is not the time, nor the place to air grievances and/or to dump on the other party. Remember that the reason that you want to plan and keep a date night is because you want to continue to build on the intimacy that’s already established and to make sure that neither party loses interest in keeping a date night.

Keeping the date night

The most important reason to start and plan a date night is making sure that you keep the date night going. You should try your best to ensure that nothing stops or prevents you from enjoying many nights of date nights throughout your relationship. Inevitably through time, situation, and/or profession, date night will be missed or cancelled. One of the best ways to keep a date night is to establish SPP’s (Sexual Penalty Points) for the person that breaks a date night engagement. This is a fun and harmless way that both people win, when a date night is missed. Sit together and make a list of postcards with various sensual acts that a person can pick from when a SPP has been assessed.

Another great way to keep date night is to give friendly reminders and hints about what could be expected during the next date night. Many times the tease or contemplation of what could be expected on date night is enough to intrigue the other party to make sure they don’t miss it. Of course, you should be prepared to match the expectation! Giving hints and leaving reminder notes about what you have planned for date night is a great way to keep both parties interest peaked in wanting to keep the date night alive.

Date night is the responsibility of both people in the relationship. Just like it took two people to start the relationship, it will take the same two to make the necessary sacrifices to keep the date night dates. These represent just a few things that you can do to keep your date night active and your relationship moving in the right direction.

Obi aka The Relationship Guy, provides insightful, common sense, witty, and some times sarcastic articles on love, dating, and relationships. His forthcoming book, ‘The Blueprint of Love’ goes into detail about the game of love. You can read more articles and get more information about the book by going to: [http://www.theblueprintoflove.com]. You can also read his blog on married life called: Marriage 101: Lessons Learned in the First Year of Marriage

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Speed Dating

Heard enough pick-up lines? Don’t like nightclubs? Sat through one too many bad blind dates? Can’t seem too meet new dates? Pushed for time? Why not try speed dating?

Fast dating. Hurry dating. 3 minute dating. 8 minute dating. Coco Swan has researched the newest dating fashion to sweep the world and gives you all the speed dating tips to increase your chances of getting a tick on your dating card.

Speed dating is defined as an organized method of meeting potential romantic partners in which participants evaluate each other over the course of a single event through a series of brief one-on-one meetings. Coco did hear it being described elsewhere as “musical chairs with people as prizes”.

The concept of speed dating is the brain child of Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish Ha Torah, who saw it as a way for Jewish singles to meet each other in large cities where they were in the minority. The word “SpeedDating” is actually a registered trademark of Aish Ha Torah. “Speed dating” is now a generic term for a similar concept. Other terms include: fast dating, hurry dating, 3 minute dating, and 8 minute dating. The first speed dating event occurred in Beverley Hills in 1998. After an episode in Sex and the City in 2000 the concept of speed dating really took off.

Speed dating is less intimidating than meeting strangers in a bar, and certainly a lot safer. It is being billed as a fast fun way to meet a room full of eligible strangers who are also looking to date. It is a great way to meet new people and enlarge your social circle. Since dating is really a numbers game, speed dating is perfect, as you can meet as many as 25 prospective dates at one event. Various companies obviously use different numbers but the more popular sites were using between 8-25 as their meeting numbers. Usually the event you will be attending will have people in the same age range as yourself. There are also many niche speed dating events out there catering for gay speed dating, black speed dating, older man younger woman, and various religious affiliations, including Jewish speed dating.

Speed dating is perfect for those who are time deficient. This concept is a real time saver as most people decide very quickly if they are going to be compatible romantically.

How Speed Dating Works:

A selected equal number of guys and girls attend a venue like a trendy lounge, café or bar. Every one is given the equivalent of a dating card. Every one will just be introduced by their first name for security purposes. Encounters seem to run from 3 minutes to 8 minutes depending on the company you are using. At the end of the allocated time a bell will ring, or a glass will be clinked, and all the males will get up and move one place on. If you should fancy what you have seen then you tick the appropriate box on your card. If you are lucky enough for reciprocated interest then within 1-2 days the company will line the two of you up. Some companies are now incorporating online dating with their speed dating services and these then match you up online. These companies are also offering the service of looking at profiles before you attend and then the company can invite any one you fancy along to the same event as you. Sounds pretty good to me!

Obviously, punctuality is essential with speed dating. If you are late you will throw the numbers out. Most companies make a point of saying that if you are late they will cancel you.
Likewise, once you have arrived, you are there for the duration, little short of medical emergency, because once again you will be messing up the ratios for everyone else. So if you are going to go, be on time and plan on staying to the end.

What to Wear:

You are going to be noticed at this event so you need to take some care with your appearance.
Make sure your outfit is venue appropriate. You should select an outfit that you feels flatters you and that you are comfortable in. Ladies, if you are going to be seated for the night do not wear a shirt that gapes when you sit down, or offers him a view down to your navel. Men, clean hands are a must as she will be looking at them. Obviously good personal hygiene is essential. A little of your favourite scent is good too, so long as you are not swimming in it. Natural make up supposedly works best for the girls at these gigs as the fellas find too much enhancing off putting and wonder what is underneath that needs hiding. The more confident you are feeling the more approachable you will be.

First Impressions do Count.

It can take as little as 4 seconds to mentally check out someone’s face, clothes and body.
People make snap judgments and will size up the possibilities of a relationship within minutes of meeting. In fact, researchers at Ohio University, using 164 new students, showed that after just 3 minutes the students could predict what sort of relationship they would have with their fellow students. Categories included good friends, lovers, and never speak again. The students who only chatted for 3 minutes were just as successful at predicting the future relationships as those who spent 6 or 10 minutes speaking. The more positively they viewed the potential future relationship played a huge part in how hard they then worked to get the relationship to work. The self fulfilling prediction then came into play and determined how much effort they were willing to put in. Obviously, if one party has negative thoughts they will be preventing the relationship moving further. The correlation to speed dating here being that they will not tick their card and adios.

How to make a Good Impression.

What to say:

Most people find that the more attractive the person they are trying to impress the more nervous they get. However, it won’t really matter what you say in the first 30 seconds because you will both be busy checking the other out. Always speak within reason. Say nothing inappropriate e.g.: “What were you thinking with the hair?” Here is a great little strategy to employ when the nerves strike.

1: Compliment them. Take a quick look at what they have obviously worked hard at or spent a lot of money on and choose that. People love to be praised and this is a quick way to win affection. Don’t get too carried away and come over as insincere or creepy.

2: Ask a simple question.

3: Introduce yourself.

At this point your date should feel secure. Then smile, look them in the eye and ask another question. If you find it is really hard work to click, then you are probably not destined to be soul mates. After the introductions are over keep the conversation flowing:

1: keep the talking about them.

2: steer away from shallow questions; try to make them a bit more meaningful.

3: don’t make it an interrogation or treat it like a job interview.

4: find out what they find is fun or exciting.

5: other safe topics are movies, siblings, past holidays, career in brief, sports, hobbies, movies and current affairs.

6: don’t forget the end goal is to get a date.

7: try to make them feel better about themselves without being insincere.

Body Language.
With time being an issue with speed dating, a lot of the signals you are giving and receiving are on a purely subconscious level. Body language and sexual chemistry everywhere! Here are some body language tips to make sure you are reading it right. Give off seriously interested gestures to keep them interested subconsciously.

The interested girl. Seated with legs crossed and her hand on her thigh. By sitting up straight she is showing her interest. Looking straight in your eyes with a tilted head shows a high level of interest. Exposing the wrist or palms shows honesty. Running fingers through her hair is another strong sexual body language gesture for flirting. Women also play with their necks or necklace when they are sexually interested. Girls also tend to start sticking out their chests when they spy a fellow they are interested in.

The interested guy. When guys go into flirt mode they will start stroking their ties, rubbing their noses and also playing with their hair. Depending on seating arrangements they will also often open up their laps to display their packages.

Bad signs for all include fidgeting and fiddling but can also just indicate nervousness. Holding your glass at chest height or higher makes you appear defensive. Arms crossed over your chest is also perceived to be some sort of physical barrier. Sitting slumped is also not seen as good body language. Beware of appearing to be shifty eyed.

Advantages of Speed Dating:

1: safe

2: allows singles to meet a large number of other singles at one event.

3: great if you have already dated all your friend’s friends or have a limited social circle of singles.

4: no face to face rejection.

5: both women and men have to interact, thus leveling the gender playing field.

6: time limits ensure that no one is stuck for too long with anyone they do not fancy.

7: women can go along with their friends.

8: you can hear what is being said.

9: age appropriate ranges.

10: cost efficient as you get numerous dates for the price of one.

11: no monopolizing of the hot talent, every one gets to spend time with everyone else.

12: you don’t have to be able to dance to impress anyone.

13: no tacky pick-up lines to listen to.

What not to do while Speed Dating:

!: Never give out personal details including phone numbers, last names, addresses, business cards or email addresses for safety purposes.

2: Never harass other dates to tick their date card for you.

3: Don’t treat it like a job interview.

4: Don’t be disrespectful.

5: No behaviour that could be construed as sexual harassment.

6: Never be late.

7: No asking for another date.

What are you waiting for? Sign on for your nearest speed dating event now!

Swiftly, Coco Swan.

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What To Do On The Second Date

Congratulations on getting a Second Date. There are some things that you can do to make the chances of getting a third and a forth Date:

  • Carry on getting to know your Date.
  • Stick to fairly short Dates.
  • Keep it positive.
  • Final chance.
  • Don’t rush anything.
  • Compliment and talk about how you see their relationship.
  • Do what you did on your first Date.
  • Choose Topics carefully.
  • Open up.
  • Reference the first Date.

On the Second Date you should still be in the stage, where you don’t really know your Date, and you should still be getting to know them. Saying this, however the Second Date is not the time for night long discussions, so keep the Dates short, a maximum of 4 hours is the general rule of thumb. You don’t want you Date to think, they are being held their against their will!

You should keep it positive, so don’t talk about your ex partners. Don’t moan and say that nobody likes you. Also don’t discuss sex, women find this a complete turn off.

Sometimes the First Date might have been horrible, but you want to give them another chance. People can get very worked up over First Dates, which does affect them. If the Second Date is still strained, then just give up now, and don’t give them another chance. The Second Date is the final chance, and another Date could be disastrous.

Don’t rush straight into physical contact, and limit yourself to holding hands and playful nudging. Don’t skip straight to kissing at the Second Date, perhaps this is more of a Third Date sort of thing. If you rush into things, you will come across as being insincere.

You should compliment your Date, and talk about, where you see your relationship going during your relationship, so you don’t have to wait until the end of the Date to discuss this. Your Date will love to hear compliments.

You should continue doing whatever you did on the first Date. If you held open doors, or pulled out the chair for your Date to sit down on your First Date, then you should defiantly continue doing it on the Second Date. If you just stop doing it, then they will think, that it was all just an act, and it won’t be as impressive.

You should open up a bit more than on your First Date. Why not think up some embarrassing stories to tell your Date, and these will allow your Date to feel much closer to you, because they want to know everything about you, and if they are funny interesting stories, then that’s even better! People like others that can laugh at themselves.

Try to open up on your Second Date, and everybody will be a little nervous on their First Date, which is perfectly understandable. Make jokes about yourself to show that you are a good Sport, and don’t mind laughing at yourself.

Avoid talking about sensitive subjects such as religion and politics, you may not know exactly what your Date thinks about these subjects, and you don’t want to rub them up the wrong way! It’s best to talk about these things in other Dates, the Second Date is not the right time, it would just lead to discomfort.

You should also reference the first Date, remember all of the things that you learnt about your Date during the first Date, and mention that. This proves that you were not only listening and paying attention, but also that you were genuinely interested. It’s even better if last time your Date told you, that they would be doing something, now you can ask them how it went on.

Asking your Date how they got on shows, that you thought about them in-between your Dates, this is a very enduring quality.

About The Author

Morten Hansen has been working with the Dating area for several years and is mainly writing about subjects, that make it easier to use different Dating Tips. For more useful information about different Dating Tips visit our website [http://www.greatinformation4you.com/dating-and-relationships.html]

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A Good Dating Teacher Expands Your Knowledge In Dating And Matching

There is a lot of confusion surrounding dating advice these days. Unfortunately, a lot of the popular dating advice is very misleading and only good for short term pleasure. I am sure you’ll agree that, it hurts to see young Singles dating and falling in love with the wrong people, and then breaking up again and again, ruining their quality of inner life.

In order to avoid relationship problems in the future, I want to give you 6 criteria you must ask for as you seek dating advice:

1: A good Dating Teacher should teach how to avoid these costly dating mistakes. S/he should teach you what you must know before you start dating, the 9 critical steps of dating and the importance of each step, how to make the right dating decisions the first time, and how to choose your true lifetime love from a large database of Singles, (and be right at the first attempt).

2: There are so many decisions to make in the dating process, and it is not smart to rely on your memory alone. Therefore, a good one should teach you how to use this new decision-making tool, “10 Step Smart Lover’s Model” to guide you to make quality dating decisions at every step of the dating process. This decision-making tool is very powerful; it helps you to see what the ordinary eyes cannot see, it reveals the critical indicators that need re-evaluation, and helps to confirm that you are ideal for each other. This is critical in today’s dating world, and a good Dating Teacher should teach you how to date skillfully.

3: A good Dating Teacher should teach you how to foresee and manage the risks and uncertainties in dating. Every person has a good side they display when they are dating, and you need the Smart Lover’s Risk Exit Strategy mindset to identify their unacceptable side before you become emotionally attached to them. Your Dating Teacher should teach you how to develop your dating risk control and risk tolerance zones, and teach you how to use the Smart Lover’s Risk Exit Strategy Flow Chart. This decision-making tool helps you to prevent a mismatch with an impostor who is going to pretend to be the ideal one and later change to ruin your quality of love life.

4: A good Dating Teacher should teach you: – the 11 underlying root causes of marital failure – how to identify and avoid them using the Smart Lover’s Risk Exit Strategies, why people repeat these costly dating mistakes, the critical factors to evaluate whether you are on or off track to your dreamed destiny, the 11 things that people fear in dating and how to overcome them, the 10 most important things you must do before you start dating, the most important things to do on your 1st date, the most important things to do on your follow-up date, etc. A good dating teacher should teach this new dating skill to help you to make the right dating decisions the first time.

5: A good Dating Teacher should teach you the key secrets to matching, what to match, and how to match skillfully. She/He should teach you how to get total disclosure in the initial dating stages, how to tell whether the decision is from your inner person or outer person -because this is a key secret to dating success. She/He should teach you all this prerequisite base knowledge, to help you succeed in today’s dating world.

6. A good Dating Teacher should satisfy your need to know. She/he should bring all this wealth of dating and matching knowledge into focus for you, to enable you find your true love without first bruising your heart over and over. She/he should give you an insider’s grasp to enable you to get it right the first time.

Finally, they needs to be aware of what is happening in today’s dating world, the new concepts, and the latest breakthroughs. And this is only a small sampling, but make sure that you get all the answers to your dating questions. If your Dating Teacher empowers you with this detailed dating knowledge, then without a doubt, she/he is on top and worth your money.

Best of all, you do not have to guess or rely on your memory alone; and you don’t have to waste your money and time dating and falling in love with the wrong people.

Alex Mugume is a Dating Teacher. He teaches Singles how to find their true husband or true wife, and be right at the first attempt. To learn more about this new dating skill, please visit, http://www.SkillfulDating.com/

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Massage in Bucharest

Recognize it! You’re busy! And so must be! That’s what life is like! But you want more than that, you want to do more for yourself and massage can help. Because massage makes more than a simple relaxation of the mind and body. It keeps your body in shape and gives you enough energy to make you enjoy a longer life better than you do it today.

Massage releases stress. At the moment, stress is a universal evil. Every time you are late, every time you avoid a car in traffic, every time you have trouble working, stress is doing his job. Each time adrenaline increases heart rate and cortisone levels and organs respond to the measure. You will be in a state of nerves and constant agitation.
When there is no release of stress, serious problems such as an upset stomach, hypertension, sleep disturbances, chest pain, or existing illness may worsen.

Some of the changes that may occur are: Anxiety, lack of concentration, depression, permanent fatigue, muscle or bone pain, sexual dysfunction, excessive sleep or insomnia

All these stress-related problems can be diminished and some can be totally eliminated by massage. The researchers concluded that a massage session can lower heart rate and blood pressure, relax your muscles and increase endorphin production. The massage also releases serotonin and dopamine and the result is a general relaxation, both physical and mental.
Our body care must be at the top of the priorities.
By adding the massage to your routine you will look much better and you will be much healthier and relaxed. Massage can improve your vitality and mood. Massage can prepare for a long and beautiful life.

Our masseuses personalize each massage session according to the needs of the individual.
Our massage parlors offer a variety of relaxation styles and techniques to help you. Apart from relaxing, massage can be a powerful ally in reducing pain, increasing energy levels, improving mental and physical performance

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After a massage session, you will see how the mental prospects are enriched, the body allows easier handling, better pressure resistance, relaxation and mental alertness, calm and creative thinking.
When you have the impression or force yourself to stay straight, your body is not actually aligned properly. Not only does the posture look bad, but it forces some of the muscles to go muddy all day, while others become weaker. After a long time, the incorrect position may cause other drops. For example, internal organs press on what affects digestion, breathing ability is also diminished, which means that much less blood and oxygen reaches the brain and hence all sorts of other complications.

Massage allows you to return your body to the track. Allowing the body to make healthy and accurate movements is one of the greatest benefits of massage. Massage can relax and restore muscles injured by bad posture, allowing the body to position itself in a natural, painless position.
Apart from posture, there is also anxiety. One of the signs of anxiety and stress can also be heavy breathing. When the body begins to breathe too little and deeply instead of breathing at a natural rithm, it is impossible for one to relax. One reason may also be that the chest muscles and the abdomen get tightened and the air gets harder.

Massage plays an important role in learning the body how to relax and how to improve breathing. Respiratory problems such as allergies, sinuses, asthma or bronchitis are a group of conditions that can benefit from massage. In fact, massage can have a positive impact on respiratory function.

Many of the muscles in the front and back of the upper part of the body are breathing accessory. When these muscles are tight and shorten they can block normal breathing and interrupt effective breathing natural rithm. Massage techniques for stretching and relaxing these muscles improves breathing function and breathability. Massage leads to an opening of the chest as well as structural alignment and nerve dilatation that are required for optimal pulmonary function. A good way to treat respiratory problems with massage is the taping made in Swedish massage. When done on the back, along with vibrations, it can detach the mucus from the lungs and can clean the airways for better later function.

Massage not only relaxes muscles, but helps people become aware of daily stress levels. Once the body recognizes what really means relaxation, the mind can rest easily relax before the stress becomes cornice and harmful. This will help you enjoy a balanced life. Massage controls breathing, allows the mind to re-create relaxation before the occurrence of chronic and harmful stress and increases the level of energy.